Wednesday, August 26, 2009

Summer flew by


Summer is quickly drawing to an end. The first few weeks were so rainy and crummy that I was looking forward to getting every minute of good weather out of the rest of the summer. It seems, however, that although school doesn't start until next week, school sports started last week. Devon's had 2 a day practices, a jamboree, and a scrimmage and Kennedy had tryouts today as well. It has sent me back into the school run around sooner than I anticipated. I was hoping for a quiet last week hanging with the kids and hitting the beach : (
Keeghan has taken to the running around ok so far. We have a few tough nights as far as sleep goes this week (one night we were up for a good 3 hours) and she's been a bit demanding on being held...alot. There have been a few bad car moments of late too where she SCREECHES at the top of her lungs until we all end up screaming back. It's tough for the kids (and me) to try and ignore her and I've certainly had some crappy Mommy moments over this. But really, I have those moments anyway.

I think we're moving forward on bonding. Keeghan runs to me when I come home from work or pick her up from the gym daycare. I bonded quicker with Keeghan than I did with at least one of the other kids which strikes me as odd, but it is what it is. There are certainly days where I'm willing to give her away but I feel that way about all of them sometimes! Keeghan will bury her face in my shoulder if a stranger says hi to her and we are getting more and more hugs and kisses. One of Keeghan's new fun tricks is to push Doug and I together to kiss when she says goodbye to him and kisses him. At first I had no clue what she was doing but then we figure out she wanted us to kiss and say goodbye. She also "fist bumps" and has to do it with ANYONE near her once she does it with one person. It's cute and a good way for her to learn it's ok to kiss some people but not everyone.

Her vocabulary is growing a bit but she is not putting words together at all and it is difficult to get her to try and repeat what we say. Many things that she says sound the same and are difficult to understand. She has learned "soccer" though LOL. We were working on "Go purple" today at Devon's game but that didn't work out so good. Keeghan can also identify shapes...triangle, square, circle and star but we're pretty much the only ones who can understand the words.

I am feeling a tiny bit less like a prisoner. I'm working about 16 hours a week and being out of the house and feeling useful helps. I certainly still miss being able to go where I want when I want. It takes an extra 20 minutes to get anywhere just to get Keeghan in shoes and the car and then out of the car and then in the car...you get the idea. The big kids are AMAZING with her and play with her a ton but I'm not comfortable leaving them to babysit for her unless she's in bed for the night. I'm taking advantage of that a bit now as I know in another few years they will all be off with their friends non-stop and I'll have to hire babysitters! It is nice, though, for Doug and I to be able to get out once in a while. I do still long for my organized, together, self that I seem to have left in China. I can't totally find the "new normal" for us which stresses me out. Maybe once we're settled back into a school routine I'll get there...then again I've been hoping for that since we got home and haven't done it yet.
This is what Doug and I did with one of our nights out...

It translates to "destined to meet" and anyone in the world of a China adoption will understand the meaning and the red thread. If you don't...read the quote at the top right hand corner of my blog.

Saturday, August 22, 2009

Friday, August 21, 2009

Bragging

Just for a minute. About Devon. He's going to be a Freshman this year and he made the school soccer team. And even sort of the Varsity team. We live in a pretty big city so we have 2 high schools but even so there are alot of kids in competition for the coveted sports slots like soccer and football. Devon's been playing soccer on and off since 2nd grade and Doug's coached him a bunch. Anyway, he came off the field from tryouts the other night saying he was going to be the JV starting keeper because he was the Varsity back up keeper but they didn't want him sitting on the bench the whole season so he was going to play JV too. And he meant TOO. He's now practicing with both teams and is going to a jamboree on Sunday with the varsity team. We're very proud of him for making the team!

Monday, August 17, 2009

8 Months...

...ago today Keeghan and I landed back on US soil. It's hard to believe it's been almost a year already. Some days I feel like she's been here forever and other days it seems very odd to me that we've had her so long and I still don't know her. We've had her 1/3 of her life now.

A year ago (the 15th actually) we got a phone call at 5:20pm on a Friday afternoon from our agency that our pre-approval (PA) had arrived from China. The PA basically says the CCAA had approved our application to adopt Keeghan and once they went through our dossier with a fine tooth comb they'd issue a letter of approval and travel approval for us to bring Keeghan home. It was once we had our PA that we were able to share the news of our new addition. It was a tough 2 weeks waiting once we'd sent our letter of intent. I was ready to shout from rooftops that we had a new daughter but knew I needed to wait.

We still seem to be doing ok attachment wise. Keeghan certainly does not like it when I say bye to go to work and she gets excited to see me when I come back. She asks for everyone to say goodnight when she's going to bed and gets a bit sad looking if one of her siblings or her Baba aren't here. She is certainly a demanding stubborn little girl but I guess that makes her fit in all that much better.

Speech is still very much an issue. Keeghan generally won't make an effort to try and repeat a word if you ask her to and much of what she says is very difficult to understand. She's not even close to putting words together. It's very clear that she knows exactly what she's saying and what she wants but sometimes I just have no clue : ( She understands us well and follows directions when asked. I'm really not sure where the expressive language breakdown is...it could still be the barrier of Chinese to English but I'm starting to suspect it's more than that. We'll keep at it with early intervention and at home in general and hopefully start seeing some progress.

Saturday, August 8, 2009

Pictures

Playing simon says with Ge Ge
NOOOOOO, not a wave!


Oh this is fun!


Mugging...



and more mugging...


Carson and Kennedy trying hard to convince Keeghan boogie boarding is fun.


Crab release


Kennedy


Digging in the sand



Jumping with my baby.



Thursday, August 6, 2009

Some numbers...

At her dr's appt yesterday Keeghan weighed in at 31.6lbs and measured 35.5" tall. For real??? She's gained 6.5lbs since we got home in December and grown 2.5 inches. I'm thinking Devon, Kennedy and Carson didn't hit the 30lb mark until they were 4 or so. No wonder I hurt all over...it's from carrying monster baby!